What Is The Makeup of a Confident Woman?

When I was in my teens and 20s, I rarely wore makeup. Unless it was a special event, such as my wedding day, I was fortunate that I didn’t need it. Plus, I knew enough to know that I didn’t have the skills to apply makeup properly and I had no interest in learning them, so I didn’t bother.

But as I’ve gotten older, my skin has lost that youthful glow. While overall it’s in good condition, it’s gotten blotchy, my eyes seem smaller, and my lips are thinner. Welcome to your 40s.

 The Makeup of a Confident Woman. The Science of Beauty, The Gift of Time, and The Magic of Putting Your Best Face Foward by Trish McEvoy

So makeup has become more of a necessity for me to feel good about myself when I leave the house. I feel more confident when I take the time to apply makeup.

Well, Trish McEvoy is the author of The Makeup of a Confident Woman and her mission is to help women exude confidence, and makeup is the tool Trish uses.

"Everyone of us needs something to help us sail through the day and make it better. Makeup has been that instrument for me and it can be yours, too."

Her belief is that when you feel confident about how you look, that confidence will show in your body language, your attitude, and your mood. Others will be able to perceive it.

“No sooner do you love what you see in your face in the mirror than your entire mentality changes and suddenly you’re practicing other habits that culminate in a better, more beautiful you.”

She acknowledges that some women don’t want to bother with makeup or feel they don’t need it.

“What does feeling your best mean? Maybe you wouldn’t ordinarily include makeup in that definition, but I’m asking you right now to challenge yourself. Invest the time to put on your makeup using my system and see what happens.”

McEvoy starts the instructive part of the book by going over the basics of skincare and the tools you need to apply makeup with skill.

Next, she asks you to identify your Beauty ID.

  • Level 1 is someone who uses few products, spends minimal time on makeup, and even skips makeup altogether some days. This is me.

  • Level 2 is someone who won’t leave the house without makeup and feels that makeup enhances and defines their look.

  • Level 3 is someone for whom makeup is a creative outlet. They enjoy playing with makeup, experimenting with new looks, and they own a lot of makeup products.

You may be at different levels at different times in your life but overall, there is likely one with which you most identify.

Then she gets to the tutorials.

There are 8 steps to each level of makeup but obviously, you don’t have to go through all 8 steps. You may not need them.

1. Brighten and Prime Upper Eyes
2. Eyeliner and Color
3. Lash Enhancement
4. Under Eyes
5. Even Skin
6. Face Color
7. Brown Enhancement
8. Lip Enhancement 

There are six women of varying ages and ethnicities that she takes through all eight steps. It starts with a before and after picture of the model. Then McEvoy does a Level One look (the minimal look) and walks you through all eight steps. Next, on the same women, she does a Level 2 look, again with the eight steps. Finally, same woman, a Level 3 look, and all eight steps. 

After those extensive tutorials, there are an additional six models that she uses to address specific beauty concerns that you can correct with makeup, such as uneven lips, thin lashes or drooping eyelids.

That section was most interesting to me because McEvoy used one particular model, Valerie, who was in McEvoy’s first book when Valerie was 20. Then we get to see Valerie again in this book at age 30 and McEvoy explains how Valerie’s look has changed and so her makeup needs change as well. 

The photography throughout the book is well-done and it’s easy to see how the makeup is being applied so you can use the same technique on yourself. 

What did I learn?

My eyes tend to be dark so learning how to brighten the eye area (page 66) and create that Triangle of Light (page 134) has been super helpful. (Not that I make use of it every day—remember I’m a Level One kind of girl.) Right now, I’m experimenting with different under-eye makeup products and brands. (Any suggestions?)

I also learned how to create a fuller lash line by using a gel liner at the base of my lashes (page 87). This has been my favorite tip and one I put into practice just about every day that I wear makeup.

Have you read The Makeup of a Confident Woman? What did you find helpful? Let me know in the comments.

If you haven’t read it and need help with your makeup, you can get your copy of The Makeup of a Confident Woman at Amazon.

How To Be Confident When Grocery Shopping For Your Family

“Wouldn’t it be great if you had a trusted field guide who could take you by the hand and walk you through every aisle of the grocery store, explain the health benefits and concerns of each food group, and then offer tips for selecting the best, most nutritious variety of each?”

 How to feed your family real food and be confident about it

Feeding our families is tricky business today. As I sit here writing this, I’m overwhelmed. What questions should I highlight in this piece? 

“Is it better to buy organic or local?”
“What foods are on the dirty dozen list again?”
“Should we buy cage-free or grass-fed?”
“The packaging looks 'green' and healthy, and it says it’s 'made with natural ingredients,' but it uses partially hydrogenated oils—didn’t I read that those are unhealthy?”
“This product says it’s organic, but it has 23 grams of sugar in it—that can’t be good, right?”
“Or,” and this is a big one in our house, “how do we store these very expensive organic blueberries? Last time they spoiled so quickly.” 

The Real Food Grocery Guide isn’t going to answer every possible question, but it will give you a solid base of information so you can be confident about what you’re feeding your family.

The author, Maria Marlowe, is a certified integrative nutrition health coach who wrote The Real Food Grocery Guide to “serve as the manual I wish I had when I was making the switch to real, nourishing foods that support health—the stuff our bodies were actually designed to eat in the first place.”

Here are three areas that I found most beneficial.

1. The section on produce has been a game-changer for me and is the reason I decided to buy this book. I read an advanced digital copy last summer via NetGalley, and when I got to the produce section, I knew I had to own a hard copy of this book. My daughter loves fruits and vegetables and is always willing to experiment with new foods. But we’ll often stand in the produce section with puzzlement. If we want to buy papaya, what do we look for? Well, Marlowe tells us to look at the color. It should be mostly yellow or orange-yellow. The body should have a slight give, but the neck should be firm. Brown spots on the skin won’t affect the flavor. She also tells us the most nutritious varieties to purchase, how to store it (properly storing produce is a big money-saver), and even how to cut it up and eat it.

2. Buying fresh food and eating healthy can feel expensive. Marlowe offers many ideas for saving money while shopping for healthy foods. Two online options that were new to me were thrivemarket.com and nuts.com.

3. Oils—Cooking with oils has befuddled me for years. (Please don’t laugh—I really don’t enjoy cooking.) I know that vegetable oil is bad for you and olive oil is good for you. But you can’t cook with olive oil because it has a low smoke point. (What is a smoke point anyway?) Marlowe answers that question and walks you through all the different kinds of oils, what to use when, and what phraseology to look for on the label.

4. The last section that I think is super helpful is the chapter on packaged foods. In this chapter, Marlowe defines the buzzwords that often show up on the packaging. What do labels such as Fair Trade, Local, and Natural mean and how does it affect the food we’re buying?

She also explains why it’s better to read the ingredients list when you are deciding if a food meets your standards for healthy eating. She also includes a large graphic of a Nutrition Facts panel that breaks down what all the sections mean.

I purchased the physical copy of The Real Food Grocery Guide because I love physical books, but it might be better to own the ebook version. Then you can pull it up on your phone when you are standing in the grocery store trying to remember what fresh okra should look like.

You can purchase your copy of The Real Food Grocery Guide at Amazon.

Do you have a favorite book that helps you with healthy-eating? Please let me know in the comments. I’m always looking to add to my TBR list.

In Other Reading . . .

I'm linking up with Modern Mrs. Darcy to share a bit about some of the other books that I've been reading.

 Gridiron genius by michael lombardi

It is the most wonderful time of the year for football fans. Football season is starting and football books are being released. Gridiron Genius by Michael Lombardi (no relation to Vince) is a behind-the-scenes look at what makes some NFL teams so great. I had the opportunity to read an advance review copy via Netgalley so I can't quote from the book but there are a few lines that are just genius/borderline snarky in the humor. I hope they made it to the final edition. The book would be great for all football fans and students of the game. Gridiron Genius is available for preorder now and will be released September 11, 2018.

 Shattered mirror by sarah price

Shattered Mirror by Sarah Price tells the story of a mother fighting to save her son from drug addiction. Kelly Martin is a single mother who is the only one in her son's life willing to face the reality that he is in trouble. Her ex-husband, her family, and her community offer no support, preferring to avoid the issue or blame her parenting for his addiction. Shattered Mirror offers a hopeful story to those facing similar struggles with addiction. It is free to read via Kindle Unlimited.

 Belle by sarah price

The same Sarah Price who wrote Shattered Mirror might be best known for her Amish fiction. I grew up near an Old-Order Mennonite community so once in awhile I get a craving for books about that simple, tech-free life. Sarah Price is my favorite author for these stories. Her books are true to the Amish faith and lifestyle. It is a wonderful change of pace from business books and psychological thrillers. (In full disclosure, I much prefer her books that are not based on retellings, but all of her writing is solid.) Belle is the first in the Amish Fairytale series.

 The hiltons by j randy taraborrelli

If you follow me on Instagram or have read some of my other linkup posts, you know that I love J. Randy Taraborrelli. His biographies are very well-written and well-researched. The Hiltons is about the rise of Conrad Hilton and his hotel empire. I could've gone without the mentions of Paris but I suppose there is some relevance to the story and it really is a tiny portion of the 500+ page book. I can't decide which of Taraborrelli's books to read next.

What have you been reading recently? Let me know in the comments. I'm always looking to add to my TBR list.